Okay this is so so good that it’s taken me days to work out what to comment on. (ADHD brain, as you know).
The not realising everyone else’s brain is like yours… oh god yes. I recently described my brain to my aunt, who is brilliant and amazing and so generous with her understanding of others. She listened intently and said ‘no that’s not how brains usually work, that must be exhausting’. It is. It is. As you know.
And making others feel good about themselves? I had no idea I did this until I confessed to a pal my guilt of not seeing her enough since her third child was born and she replied with just this. Apparently I am a cheerleader who makes her feel capable of anything. God I wish I could do that for myself.
I agree it’s not a superpower. It just IS. Like when people ask me if I wish I had siblings. I don’t know, I’ve never had them. This type of brain we have is all we have. Better be okay with it really.
Anyway, welcome! A belated official welcome. Though we all knew it all along. Now for some unravelling. May it be joyous. x
Oh, I don't write any paid stuff. I locked one post *after* sending it everyone for the sake of R's privacy cos it's about me and her dad (in case her schoolmates ever find it). So no need!
Okay this is so so good that it’s taken me days to work out what to comment on. (ADHD brain, as you know).
The not realising everyone else’s brain is like yours… oh god yes. I recently described my brain to my aunt, who is brilliant and amazing and so generous with her understanding of others. She listened intently and said ‘no that’s not how brains usually work, that must be exhausting’. It is. It is. As you know.
And making others feel good about themselves? I had no idea I did this until I confessed to a pal my guilt of not seeing her enough since her third child was born and she replied with just this. Apparently I am a cheerleader who makes her feel capable of anything. God I wish I could do that for myself.
I agree it’s not a superpower. It just IS. Like when people ask me if I wish I had siblings. I don’t know, I’ve never had them. This type of brain we have is all we have. Better be okay with it really.
Anyway, welcome! A belated official welcome. Though we all knew it all along. Now for some unravelling. May it be joyous. x
This is the best comment ever so I will not attempt to build on it, only acknowledge it. Big love to you xx
Also: my substack keeps telling me to upgrade to paid but I thought I had. Hmmm. ADHD brain?
Oh, I don't write any paid stuff. I locked one post *after* sending it everyone for the sake of R's privacy cos it's about me and her dad (in case her schoolmates ever find it). So no need!